The incident began during breakfast with my four year old son and our dad at a local IHOP. Both my dad and I thought my sister was being very rude and disrespectful to the waiter. I guess she didn't like what we were saying because she starts cursing and saying I don't care what you think, you can't tell me how to speak to someone, blah, blah blah. I kindly asked her not to use profanity in the presence of me or my son. She dismissed my request and went on and on. My dad became really upset and insisted that we just finish our meal and leave the issue alone.

On the way back to my house, my dad began a conversation about our older brother who is having marital and financial problems. He asked me what I thought about my brother's situation. Well, I'm a Christian, and I explained why I thought my brother's problems were a result of his sinful lifestyle.

My sister exploded and began yelling and cursing me out, saying who do you think you are, you are not a nice person, you are one of the meanest people I know, I'm tired of your s*%t. I was dumbfounded. I had just endured a similar tirade from her a few months ago. I had forgiven her for the previous tirade, but this time I just can't. She is not welcome in my house any more.

On and off throughout my life I have had to deal with what I think is my twin's jealousy of me. I was the first to graduate from college and my whole family attended the ceremony. But, when she graduated, only me and my mom attended. I was the first to get married and have children. She has never been married and is child-less. She always compares herself to me.

Througout our lives, along with the verbal abuse, she has physically attacked me or we've nearly come to blows. I love my sister and have NEVER EVER done to her the things she has done to me. I have always only wanted the best for her. I don't know what is wrong with her. She is not a Christian and is actually quite hostile toward Christian views. She's been seeing a therapist regularly for years, but it hasn't seemed to help her.

The weird thing is, she'll go off on me, not speak for weeks or months, and then act as if nothing happened. She has never apologized for her treatment of me or even acknowledged that she may have crossed the line a few times.

I pray for my sister, but at this point I just don't want to have anything to do with her. Am I wrong for feeling the way that I do?

[ 03-22-2004: Message edited by: christiantwin ]